Post-Play Drop
Drop, also known as “subdrop” is not uncommon, especially where there’s been intense or heavy play, or where the bottom has experienced quite a deep subspace (or floatspace)
Drop, or “subdrop” isn’t something to be ashamed of, and Tops who are aware will usually make allowances for it during their play sessions. Sometimes it can sneak up on you though, even with lighter or milder play, so I’ve put together an info page to help prepare for it potentailly happening, recognise when it’s happening to you or your play partner (or your Top – Tops experience drop as well!), and ways in which to counteract the feelings you’re experience when you’re dropping.
Do you know what “Sub Drop” is?
“Sub drop” is a term used within the BDSM community to describe the feelings of sadness, fatigue, or emotional withdrawal that can occur after intense BDSM activities, particularly those involving a deep subspace experience. A simple explanation is it’s a form of BDSM hangover. It’s important to note that everyone’s experience with sub drop is unique, and different strategies may work for different individuals. Many people don’t experience any drop at all, whilst others may go through an extreme drop.
Here are some general tips for dealing with sub drop:
Aftercare: Aftercare is crucial in BDSM practices. It ideally involves a bit of time spent with your play partner after an intense scene to emotionally and physically care for each other. This can include talking, reinforcing words, cuddles, or providing comfort and reassurance.
Rest and Recovery: Sub drop can be physically and emotionally draining. Ensure you get plenty of rest, eat healthily, and most importantly – stay hydrated.
Emotional Support: It’s important to have someone to talk to about your feelings. This could be your play partner, a friend, or a member of a BDSM community who understands what you’re going through. And if you notice yourself thinking negative thoughts, try to think positive thoughts instead.
Journaling: Some people find it helpful to write down their thoughts and feelings after a scene. This can be a way to process emotions and track patterns in your experiences with sub drop.
Self-Care Activities: Engage in activities that make you feel good and help to ground you. This could be a hobby, exercise, meditation, or just a relaxing bath.
Professional Help: If you find that you’re regularly struggling with sub drop, it may be beneficial to speak with a mental health professional, particularly one who is knowledgeable about BDSM practices.
Education and Communication: Understanding more about subspace and sub drop can help immensely. Read, research, and discuss these topics with your play partners or others in the BDSM community.
Listen to Your Body: Pay attention to what your body and mind need. If you need time alone, take it. If you need to be around others, seek out company.
Remember – aftercare and dealing with sub drop is a personal process, and what works for one person may not work for another. It’s important to communicate openly with your play partners about your needs and to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally.
How do you deal with your sub drop? The best way to deal with sub drop is to do some exercise! Go for a 25-30 minute run, do a 25-30 minute row, or cycle for 45-60 minutes, or you can also do a gym workout – doing any of these will pretty much instantly help reacclimatise you back to your base levels in a much gentler way.
You can also have some chocolate, this can really help. Watching something humorous on Netflix or the internet, chatting with people who make you laugh and/or feel good about yourself.
And just remember, you’re not alone….
